爱是什么？

★愛是一種是思念★

ღ無論何時何地 當看不到他/她の時候會想念她/他ღ

★愛也會是一種擔心★

ღ當他/她出事の時候 你會比誰都著急ღ

★愛是一種包容★

ღ你會包容她/他所有の缺點 在你眼裡他/她永遠是最完美のღ

★愛更是一種回憶★

ღ當你想起她/她做出可愛 浪漫の事時 會不知覺の傻笑ღ

★覺得好甜蜜 好甜蜜★

ღ你體會到了嗎 如果沒有就放棄 重新開始吧 祝福你ღ

圣经说：“爱是恒久忍耐、又有恩慈。爱是不嫉妒。爱是不自夸、不张狂、不做害羞的事、不求自己的益处、不轻易发怒、不计算人的恶、不喜欢不义、只喜欢真理。凡事包容、凡事相信、凡事盼望、凡事忍耐。爱是永不止息。”

（歌林多前书13：4-8）

[转贴][犢文] 我想光明正大的做愛 ◎阿弟仔

以下，我貼一篇很棒、很有意思的分享文─阿弟仔寫的那篇文章。

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作者獲獎經歷：第12屆金曲獎最佳國語男演唱人獎(2001)第19屆金曲獎最佳單曲製作人獎(2008)


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我想正大光明的做愛！　　　　　
文／阿弟仔
我，沒有同居的經驗，結婚快四年。

我有很多朋友正在同居，有的同居超過十年。

也許是因為我還沒有小孩，所以我分不太出來自己跟他們的生活有何不同。我問我的朋友為什麼不結婚，有人是嫌麻煩、有人覺得錢不夠，還有人是因為討厭對方的家人。

為什麼要同居？還不到適婚年齡嗎？受不了愛情分隔兩地嗎？電話費太貴嗎？無法抗拒性的誘惑嗎？工作不穩定嗎？想試婚？害怕自己未來的另一半性冷感或性無能？

沒錯，同居很簡單，結婚很麻煩。同居是兩個人的事，結婚是兩個家庭的事。情侶分手可以拍拍屁股走人，夫妻結了婚要負法律責任。若從屬世的角度來看，我贊成同居，我甚至贊成不想結婚的人就不要結婚！因為沒有人可以保證婚姻的美滿，也沒有人說得準未來的變化。既然每個人害怕的事情都有可能會發生，那就同居吧，避免自己提高離婚率的百分點。

但，若是從屬靈的角度來看：上帝可以保證婚姻的美滿！上帝眷顧我們的未來！────既然這麼完美，為什麼還要同居！？如果真有這麼簡單就好了……

因為人們會害怕，因為人們會軟弱，因為人們懷疑，因為人們根本就沒有信心！誰可以真的百分之一百、完完全全地將一切交給上帝？！

我也沒信心，我也懷疑上帝會保證我將來的一切永遠幸福美滿。人不就是這樣嗎？我們是罪人，原本就會犯罪，犯了罪再認，悔改就能得著赦免。不是嗎？

不是這樣的！身為一個基督徒，一生總是需要不斷地從我們無數的罪裡尋求解脫。我們活的比一般人累，為的不就是在這當中求得成長，學習怎麼更像耶穌！脫掉一件又一件的軟弱，克服一次又一次的害怕；而不是把原罪的標籤貼在自己身上，當成犯罪的藉口。

我的意思是，若你是一個基督徒，又不巧正在跟別人同居中，那我很同情你。因為你會很矛盾，過得很辛苦；一方面要活得像耶穌，一方面又要承認自己是罪人。我懂，因為我也是個十足的罪人，我卻要活得像耶穌？！很難，也很痛苦！但至少我個人在同居這件尷尬又掙扎的事件中解脫了。雖然我還有很多其他的試探需要面對，其他的誘惑需要克服……

以此文章勉勵我自己，也很高興能與大家分享。

我的朋友問我，為什麼要結婚？我說：「我遇不到比我老婆更屌的女人了！而且，我是基督徒，我想正大光明的做愛！」

如果你已經遇到對的人，何必同居呢？！

谦卑+祈求+交托+努力=成功

今天“路过”一位博客的网站，发现这位朋友写了些很有趣的东西。这位朋友节录了一部戏里的一些对话，在此也贴上供分享。内容如下：

话说有个人被上帝指示，在干旱季节中会有水灾的发生，所以要制造一艘大木船拯救所有的动物。他说，是上帝叫他做的。他说，水灾一定会发生。当然故事中有穿插很多的怪事，比如他会一直长胡子变成耶稣的样子、他瞬间从西装变成古代人的打扮、世界上所有种类的动物都会成双跟着他等等。结果，搞得妻离子散，社会也取笑他的行径，最后只落得一个人制造这艘大木船。令我留下深刻印象的是，当他老婆在一间快餐店带着孩子在吃东西时，上帝化成服务员走到她身边添加食物。之间的对话是这样的。

上帝：你看起来似乎心事重重？
老婆：嗯，我确实很不愉快。我老公说上帝指示他制造一艘大木船。

上帝：然后呢？
老婆：我只是要一个幸福的家庭，我要回我过往的老公。

上帝：你想想，当你向上帝祷告你要一个幸福的家庭时，上帝会马上赐给你一个美满的家庭，还是制造机会让你们体验家庭温暖的真谛？当你希望拥有成就时，上帝会马上给你成功，还是创造机会让你接近成功？

我想这故事是根据《旧约圣经》里的诺亚造方舟改编过来的吧？！根据我有限的知识，我知道当人不断的提醒、告诉自己某种成功的信念时，只要你意念够坚定，你就能获得心中想要的成果，或成功。还记得当我中五毕业后，当时我那卖防盗系统的老板也告诉过我这事。他说只要我每晚睡前在镜子前对自己说：“我能！我可以！”之类的话就能成功。另外，在一些书上，一些的学者或专家也提过这样的事。当然我不否认这种能量的作用性，毕竟这是种催眠和鼓励自己向上向前的动力。不过，不久前当我看了一本书之后，我对这事的看法有些许的改变。这本名叫《其实，你也是超人！》由蒙恩弟兄写的书提到人的能力是有限的，唯有靠着那赐力量的神，我们才能成功。虽然我们靠人的能力可以胜过一些事情，当绝不能胜过一些咒诅等灵里的东西。当我们奉主耶稣基督的名来宣告我们将靠着祂来成功时，我们就是谦卑自己，相信祂必使我们成功，我们将会成功。当然这也是要加上我们自己的努力，才会能成功。神要我们自己去体验那成功的过程，祂将会在我们不足的地方以祂的恩典（恩典即是我们本不应、不配得到的，却可以无条件的得到的东西）补足。

许多时候许多人会只求不做，包括我自己，常常因为懒惰没去把事情做好。恳求主帮助我有能力胜过这些软弱。上帝不会让我们马上得到我们所求的这些能力/东西，而是要我们去看透每一次的机会，祂会制造机会给我们，而不是白白地把我们所求的赐给我们。其实，我们也可以求上帝赐我们聪明智慧来“看见”机会，并且抓紧机会，毕竟机会一去不返嘛！但愿我们能多学习奉耶稣的名来宣告我们的的胜利，因为我们若奉主耶稣的名求什么，祂必按祂的旨意应允我们。当然信心若没有行为是死的。因此我们也要有行动。

Good Friday,Think the Grace and love of God and Thanks God!

Last Friday night i went to FGC's English Department's service. That day, raining heavily. When i reached Changloon with Raymond (one of my friend), we saw that some road at Changloon there got flood. Our shoes got totally wet. Even though our shoes is wet, but our plan is not change. We planed to cut our hair, have a dinner and go to Good Friday service. Thanks God, when we reached that saloon, it still not close yet and there's not many people waiting there. So, it's quite fast to our turn. At first, we thought that we might not have time to have our dinner, but God has His own plan. He let us finish our hair cutting on time. We still have about half an hour to take our dinner. Before we leave, the "tauke neo" treat us to have one cup of corn (she made it by herself,quite nice). Then we go to have our dinner.

Again, the God let the guest over that coffee shop not many also. Our dinner served in very short time (compare to normal time, need wait until half an hour). After dinner, we went to church service on time. Even though the people on that day not many, but we also enjoyed the service. As usual, the service on that day off at about 9.45p.m.When we reached bus stop, it's about 10p.m. and after we wait for few minutes, we're sure that there's no more bus for that day.So, we went to taxi stations and dew with the taxi drivers about the price to go back to campus. Unfortunately, they don't want to cut down the price. They still want take RM15 for a car. At that time, an uncle (he is also one of the taxi driver) take out RM4 and pay to the driver on turn. Thanks God and really thanks to that uncle, finally we can go back to our hostel with RM11 only. God always knows our needs and provide His grace on time. In this Good Friday and coming Ester Sunday,let's think about the grace of God.

[Fwd] Children

A little girl was talking to her teacher about whales.

The teacher said it was physically impossible for a whale to swallow a human because even though it was a very large mammal its throat was very small.

The little girl stated that Jonah was swallowed by a whale.

Irritated, the teacher reiterated that a whale could not swallow a human; it was physically impossible.

The little girl said, "When I get to heaven I will ask Jonah"..

The teacher asked, "What if Jonah went to hell?"

The little girl replied, "Then you ask him".

A Kindergarten teacher was observing her classroom of children while they were drawing. She would occasionally walk around to see each child's work.

As she got to one little girl who was working diligently, she asked what the drawing was.

The girl replied, "I'm drawing God."

The teacher paused and said, "But no one knows what God looks like."

Without missing a beat, or looking up from her drawing, the girl replied, "They will in a minute."

One day a little girl was sitting and watching her mother do the dishes at the kitchen sink. She suddenly noticed that her mother had several strands of white hair sticking out in contrast on her brunette head.

She looked at her mother and inquisitively asked, "Why are some of your hairs white, Mom?"

Her mother replied, "Well, every time that you do something wrong and make me cry or unhappy, one of my hairs turns white."

The little girl thought about this revelation for a while and then said, "Momma, how come ALL of grandma's hairs are white?"

The children had all been photographed, and the teacher was trying to persuade them each to buy a copy of the group picture.

"Just think how nice it will be to look at it when you are all grown up and say, 'There's Jennifer, she's a lawyer,' or 'That's Michael, He's a doctor.'

A small voice at the back of the room rang out, "And there's the teacher, she's dead."

The children were lined up in the cafeteria of a Catholic elementary school for lunch. At the head of the table was a large pile of apples. The nun made a note, and posted on the apple tray:

"Take only ONE .. God is watching."

Moving further along the lunch line, at the other end of the table was a large pile of chocolate chip cookies.

A child had written a note, "Take all you want. God is watching the apples."

[Fwd]Wisdom from Lee Kuan Yew's Daughter

A very good article By Lee Wei Ling, Wisdom from Lee Kuan Yew's Daughter

My house is shabby, but it is comfortable.

There is no end to wanting - after the Ferrari and the Birkin bag, what next?

In 2007, in an end-of-year message to the staff of the National Neuroscience Institute, I wrote: 'Whilst boom time in the publicsector is never as booming as in the private sector, let us not forget that boom time is eventually followed by slump time.

Slump time in the public sector is always less painful compared to the private sector.' Slump time has arrived with a bang.

While I worry about the poorer Singaporeans who will be hit hard, perhaps this recession has come at an opportune time for many of us. It will give us an incentive to reconsider our priorities in life. Decades of the good life have made us soft.

The wealthy especially, but also the middle class in Singapore, have had it so good for so long, what they once considered luxuries, they now think of as necessities. A mobile phone, for instance, is now a statement about who you are, not just a piece of equipment for communication. Hence many people buy the latest model though their existing mobile phones are still in perfect working order.

A Mercedes-Benz is no longer adequate as a status symbol. For millionaires who wish to show the world they have taste, a Ferrari or a Porsche is deemed more appropriate.

The same attitude influences the choice of attire and accessories. I still find it hard to believe that there are people carrying handbags that cost more than thrice the monthly income of a bus
driver, and many more times that of the foreign worker labouring in the hot sun, risking his life to construct luxury condominiums he will never have a chance to live in.

The media encourages and amplifies this ostentatious consumption. Perhaps it is good to encourage people to spend more because this will prevent the recession from getting worse.

I am not an economist, but wasn't that the root cause of the current crisis - Americans spending more than they could afford to? I am not a particularly spiritual person. I don't believe in the supernatural and I don't think I have a soul that will survive my death. But as I view
the crass materialism around me, I am reminded of what my mother once told me: 'Suffering and deprivation is good for the soul.'

My family is not poor, but we have been brought up to be frugal. My parents and I live in the same house that my paternal grandparents and their children moved into after World War II in 1945. It is a big house by today's standards, but it is simple - in fact, almost to the
point of being shabby. Those who see it for the first time are astonished that Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew's home is so humble. But it is a comfortable house, a home we have got used to. Though it does look shabby compared to the new mansions on our street, we are not bothered by the comparison.

Most of the world and much of Singapore will lament the economic downturn. We have been told to tighten our belts. There will undoubtedly be suffering, which we must try our best to ameliorate. But I personally think the hard times will hold a timely lesson for many Singaporeans, especially those born after 1970 who have never lived through difficult times. No matter how poor you are in Singapore, the authorities and social groups do try to ensure
you have shelter and food. Nobody starves in Singapore.


Many of those who are currently living in mansions and enjoying a luxurious lifestyle will probably still be able to do so, even if they might have to downgrade from wines costing $20,000 a bottle to $10,000 a bottle. They would hardly notice the difference.

Being wealthy is not a sin. It cannot be in a capitalist market economy. Enjoying the fruits of one's own labour is one's prerogative and I have no right to chastise those who choose to live luxuriously. But if one is blinded by materialism, there would be no end to wanting and
hankering.

After the Ferrari, what next? An Aston Martin? After the Hermes Birkin handbag, what can one upgrade to? Neither an Aston Martin nor an Hermes Birkin can make us truly happy or contented. They are like dust, a fog obscuring the true meaning of life, and can be blown away
in the twinkling of an eye.

When the end approaches and we look back on our lives, will we regret the latest mobile phone or luxury car that we did not acquire? Or would we prefer to die at peace with ourselves, knowing that we have lived lives filled with love, friendship and goodwill, that we have helped some of our fellow voyagers along the way and that we have tried our best to leave this world a slightly better place than how we found it?

We know which is the correct choice - and it is within our power to make that choice. In this new year, burdened as it is with the problems of the year that has just ended, let us again try to choose wisely


To a considerable degree, our happiness is within our own control, and we should not follow the herd blindly.


The writer is director of the National Neuroscience Institute.

假如刘邦项羽做销售……

假如刘邦项羽做销售……

有一个老板对我说：“能处理好人和人之间的问题，就能做好每一件事，任何一种生意都不是在卖产品、服务。任何一种生意都是人和人之间的生意。能做人、就能做好每一件事、就能把任何生意的尺度把握好。”

成王败寇，汉高祖刘邦和西楚霸王项羽的楚汉相争，有很多人分析他们的得失。我们在此以用人的角度来帮他们把把脉。

刘邦是流氓气十足的混混儿。不擅政治、不晓军事、无缚鸡之力、缺谋略之材。项羽出身贵族，又是十足的盖世英雄，勇冠三军、会打仗、文学基础又不错。他们两个都很了解自己。

刘 邦知道自己的缺点，知道自己的能力有限，就必须借助其他人的能力，比方说他觉得自己的人才不够，就不断地吸收各类人才。汉初名将很多，除了三杰的韩信、张 良和萧何之外，有宰狗的樊哙，赶车的夏侯婴，帮人做丧事的周勃。还有陈平、英布等，人才济济。而且，刘邦和他们相处得都不错。刘邦懂得什么 叫 TeamWork（团队精神），脸皮厚，懂得哄他的手下帮他拚命，手下们帮刘邦是因为他不爱金钱、不惜封赏。著名的垓下之战，刘邦就是利用张良的计 策，告诉韩信、彭越、英布，你们只要帮我，封地封王你们自己说吧！结局我们都知道了，垓下一战，刘邦胜利了。是一个团队对一个单人的胜利，而不是刘邦和项 羽之间单对单的胜利。

和刘邦一样，项羽也了解自己，但是项羽知道自己的优点，知道自己有什么好、但是不知道自己有什么不好，他自作聪明、 不肯服输，自我感觉很好，老子天下第一，认为谁的本事都不如自己，容不下其他英雄，打来打去，都是靠自己一个人。只知道用自己一个人的智与力，而不能用别 人的智与力。而且生性多疑，连一个范增都留不了。虽然项羽有英雄的气概，但还是敌不过刘邦。

销售工作只是一家公司中一个部分，当然是最重 要的一部分，一个销售的成功需要各个部门的共同努力，需要由 Marketing的市场推广，需要由 Customerservice的客户售后服务支 援，所以销售是一种团队工作，销售人员能够有很好的销售额当然很好，但是正因为他销售得好，其他相关的支援人员却因为他的销售业绩好，而做的功夫多了，收 入却未必能因此而上升。如果此时换作刘邦，他定会将利益和其他的团队人员分享。

香港有一家电讯公司，有一个很好的销售人员，把自己的佣金收入的一半拿出来，分给其他的支援同事，利字当头，其他同事因为他的慷慨，很喜欢帮他做事，他的生意做到全公司生意额的一半。后来这个销售人员自己出来开公司，原来的团队都跟着他出来打江山。

如 果是一个好的体制，一套好的销售系统，佣金制度不应只是为了销售人员而定，而是为了整个团队而定。如果你是项羽，你大概会认为，销售是销售人员一个人努力 的结果，销售人员如果自己讲究个人英雄主义，那么注定要失败的。一个好的销售人员，需要像刘邦一样，知道自己有什么不行，然后用其他人的专长来弥补自己的 不足，只要客户、同事的关系能相处得融洽，通常头一年需要努力，接着的几年生意自然而然的就会自己来了。

假如刘邦项羽来做销售，项羽还是会遭遇垓下之败。